Inventory for Self-Discovery

This inventory process was handed down to me from a mentor within the recovery community. Essentially, it is part of step four in twelve step work. To preface this, the first step is to admit we are powerless over (insert thing), that our lives have become unmanageable. The second step is simply that we came to believe a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. In the third step, we made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.  


Which brings us to the fourth step: made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. That’s what the questions below will uncover. They will not work if you’re not completely surrendered. Continuing the work with a sponsor is also critical to your success. Read more about the 12 steps here. I invite and encourage you to attend a twelve step meeting and seek out sponsorship to finish your step work.

”When you are self-aware, you can see where your thoughts and emotions are guiding you.” Unknown

  • What situation/person is disturbing me?

  • How do I treat that situation/person? (What is my behavior towards them? Do I give them the cold shoulder? Do I argue, try to fix them, complain?)

  • How do I act with other people in regards to this situation? (Do I look for sympathy instead of a solution?)

  • Have I connected with my Higher Power on this? (If so, what is my behavior towards my HP? Have I brought my HP into the conversation at all? Have I tried to act like God and manage it all myself?)

  • What do I need in order to feel safe, secure, and resolved?

  • How is my self-esteem affected by this? (low or high?) / Where am I getting my worth?

  • Why do I want XYZ to happen/be different and why? (Why am I having this thought?)

  • Where have I been selfish, dishonest, and inconsiderate with myself and others?

  • Whom have I hurt and what could I do differently?

  • Where have I been self-centered, self-seeking, and self-righteous?

  • Have I engaged in self-pity/victim thinking?

  • Have I been overly self-reliant?

  • Where have I been delusional, lied, or omitted certain things?

  • What am I afraid of?

  • Who am I depending on in order to feel a certain way (and can anyone actually make me feel differently)?

  • What does my highest self want?

  • Am I willing to surrender my thoughts around this in order to have a new experience?


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